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Tweak says, "You broke my banana!"

FLAIRY (flairy) wrote,
@ 2012-01-27 23:57:00

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I got my errands done really early today, and since I'm tired of looking at my homework I'm super bored.

I realized I had a ton of livejournal names I wanted to save, and I'm kind of thinking of migrating towards one. I'm so bad about writing journal entries ... There's so much I want to say but a lot of the time I just don't have the will to write it all down.

I bring this up because I found an old secret livejournal I wrote in, and I apparently wrote in it about four or so years ago. I wrote a lot about World of Warcraft and reading it sort of stings a little, even now. It sucks to know I wasted so much time playing this game. I'm still tempted even now to go back just because sometimes I'm bored, but it really isn't worth the money or effort. I don't have friends there and honestly I'm sure the game would become more fun if I didn't have friends in it. I stopped playing for myself and was playing for my guild, and it sucked. I didn't get to do anything I wanted to do ... I hated raiding after a while and I was growing to hate the people I was raiding with.

Is it bad that sometimes I miss them? I miss when we were all actually friends ... but when your life changes, your friends change too I guess. I hate it, I miss having them as friends, but I don't want them as they are now. I want them as they were then. But I guess even then they didn't care about ME, they cared about the level 85 priest healer, or the level 70 paladin tank. It's such a hard notion to accept.

Honestly I'd rather have things as they are now than relive that experience again. It had its good moments but overall it was so stressful and things were always so tense that I don't think I could handle it again, not with the knowledge I have now. More than anything, how could I ever see coming that Vell would become so damn jealous of me that she'd ignore me to prevent me ignoring her first? I mean, I should have seen it coming, she can be vindictive like that, but it's still a hard thing to accept that someone pretty much hates you for the good things that happen in your life. What was expected of me, to spiral down into depression for the rest of my life? To finally see the little confidence I have left reap some sort of reward? Not to mention, I know she talks to my cousin Anthony, but why? Is she trying to keep tabs on me so she can laugh from a distance when it all comes crashing down? Is that really what this is about? I hate to say it but that's the picture I have of her now ... I never would have a year ago. We were friends a year ago and we were inseparable, it wasn't like we couldn't be inseparable now. I don't understand WHY. I just wanted to build a relationship with someone I grew to care about and she couldn't handle that ...

I cleaned my room the other day and I found a letter from her from the last time we had a big fight. It was before I enrolled in college and she was saying her goodbyes before "new friends and college took me away from her". I imagine she cares to some degree but ... I don't know. I got angry reading it and I stuffed it in a drawer. I don't know if it was the indignation of her thinking that I was something to own like that, or I was mad that she thought I didn't care about her, or whatever it was, but I just can't stand the thought of someone hating me like this. It's been at the back of my mind and now that I've got nothing to do it's bothering the shit out of me.

I don't think I really want to reconcile our friendship, but I would like to be on at least good or neutral terms. I know we aren't judging from when she picked her book up from my house. I didn't even get so much as a "bye" or a "fuck you, see you later" or anything. I don't even know what I'd say if I had the opportunity. Judging from the big mouths everyone I associate with has I'm sure she's caught wind of what I think happened, and probably just doesn't care enough to correct me. Either way, it's sad that I left a whole group of people including her on such bad terms. I can never ever associate with them again ... even if I tried.

What do I do now? I'm so bad at socializing ... I don't really want to make new friends. I mean I do, but I don't want the responsibility of going and hanging out and shit. I guess I'm not wording that right, but I'm too tired to care at this point about proper wording. I can write about this more some other time ... I'm getting sleepy.

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asmaria
2012-01-28 06:38 am UTC (link)

...I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. :( I lost my best friend of 12 years this past summer. We had a strange kind of falling out too. I'm sure jealousy had something to do with it, but it was mostly just bitterness and years of unresolved problems that couldn't be talked out. I understand how much that hurts, that even though you'd give anything to work it out, the other person just... doesn't want a damn thing to do with you. I drank a lot more when I was going through all of that.

*hugs*

Hang in there. Don't pressure yourself into new relationships and friendships. They'll happen eventually and naturally, I bet. I actually only get out to hang out with my friends once a week, sometimes every other week, but we're still cool with each other.

I hope one day you guys can at least be on neutral terms. I don't even like thinking that the other person is bitter or upset because it feels wrong for that to fester without doing something about it. :(

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flairy
2012-01-28 10:22 am UTC (link)

It's not even about wanting to work it out, I just want to know if what i'm thinking or saying is true. I don't care about her or her life, i'm really just looking out for myself here. It's selfish, but I just want answers. It could have been talked out if she gave a damn to even try, but she was ignoring me first. I said screw that mess and bailed without trying hard, because I was over her shit. She was jealous of me and that I'm with Chris and jealous that her one relationship turned out to not be the fairytale she thought it was. F that noise! Also, i'm writing this from my phone, sorry for errors!

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asmaria
2012-01-28 04:13 pm UTC (link)

Ah. In that case, it's still really unfair to leave you hanging like that. :( I wish people could conclude arguments with maturity, but... yeah, some people are disappointing like that. At least you have Chris, though, and the maturity to see when a friendship isn't healthy. It's not selfish to want to know why something like that had to happen, when you got ignored in the first place.

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